From Your "Forty-Godmother" – Here Are 3 Tips For A 20-Something

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This week’s 3 tips from one generation to another – from your “Forty-Godmother.”

By Christina Vuleta (Founder, 40:20)

Women in their forties today are part of the first wave of women to grow up with more choices. We have seen the consequences of delaying marriage, fore-going childbirth or following an unexpected career path in large numbers. And while we all have made different decisions, what we all have in common by the time we hit our forties is the comfort of finally making decisions that are right for us.

We feel stronger, sexier and smarter than ever. We may still have shit happen to us, but we now know “shit happens” and we have a whole vault of experiences and strength to get us through the “shit”. We can draw on this learning to help us make better decisions… or at least know what we are getting ourselves into. And that is a magical power.

Here are 3 tips (“gifts”) one 40-something woman would give a 20-something if she were a “Forty-Godmother”.

Tip #1 – Don’t wait for fate to tell you the right answer.

Make mistakes and find your lucky breaks… and you will find your own direction.

I love the saying “luck is where preparation meets opportunity”. I’d put the emphasis on the preparation. When you are skilled and can see opportunities… I think luck will find you.

Tip #2 – Risks. Take them.

Risks are just decisions. There will always be another.

Tip #3 – Trust.

There’s nothing sexier than trust in a relationship. It seems counterintuitive… but trust gives you freedom to be independent and bring that excitement back to the relationship. It’s what turns passion from being a spark that dies into something that can last a lifetime if you want it. Take care of it.

This post was originally posted at 40:20 Vision.

Photo credit: Gabriela Pinto on Flickr.

About the guest blogger: Christina Vuleta is a strategic consultant and creator of 40:20 Vision, a blog that provides advice from 40-something women to 20-something women. Most recently a director at The Futures Company, a strategic marketing and trend consultancy, Christina has made a career out of understanding insights that drive women’s aspirations and life decisions. Follow her on Twitter at @4020vision.